Many of the Celebrities discussed in this book rose from the ashes of their past and created something beautiful from it and we celebrate their accomplishments. One can choose to remain a victim and allow pain to transform you into a bitter resentful Individual who harbors self-hatred. The guilt, humiliation, and shame from abuse especially sexual abuse cause you to blame yourself but it is not your fault.  In essence, you try to rationalize with yourself thinking maybe I could have stopped them or told someone and my life would have turned out differently.